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By: how does bullying disregard mental health | Health

how does bullying disregard mental health | Health — Mon, 18 Apr 2011 05:36:11 +0000

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By: Burt222

Burt222 — Sun, 26 Sep 2010 01:02:00 +0000

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By: Saramartel

Saramartel — Tue, 06 Jul 2010 01:16:00 +0000

It happened to my daughter all of her 7th grade. The school tried to lend a sympatahetic ear and had my daughter followed by a social worker…hence it became clear that it was somewhat “her fault” that she was being bullied. I took her out of school the last month of school when I saw that nothing was changing and the five girls were getting away with it. It was mostly exclusion, whicspers, terrible false rumours, hurtful letters and e-mails. Four days ago I went into the school to get my daughter’s things. BTW this is a school that she was part of since junior kidnergarden. . When I went into the classroom I spoke to the teacher and two of the girls and shared my feelings about the whole thing. Now I am the one looked upon as the crazy one, the one who dared speak to these girls. The bullied victim is often blamed. Its a sad fact. There is more need than ever for black and white ZERO tolerance policies. We have my daughter going into 8th grade…brand new school. We are praying for a good year for her where she will be accepted and loved. And with some therapy (I feel like I need it too after all this ) she will become the wonderful powerful person whe was meant to be.

By: Joanne Kinlay

Joanne Kinlay — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 13:07:00 +0000

Hi thank you for your blog on this subject. A really subtle form of bullying is exclusion by a group, along with the looks and whispering and notes and your friend not being available to “hang out” but then posting on facebook that you hung out with other kids instead. Soul destroying and very depressing for a kid!

By: R. Donald Schneider

R. Donald Schneider — Sat, 22 May 2010 19:57:00 +0000

This article by Dr. McCarthy is insightful and right on the proverbial money. This aspect of school bullying, why kids so often keep quiet about it, is the prime thrust of my anti-school bullying website and my free access internet short story “Pride’s Prison” (*Bewildering Stories*, 2006). The story is a thinly-veiled, fictionalized personal memoir that offers an intimate look at a schoolchild’s personal thought processes and reaction to severe school bullying. The story’s title succinctly summarizes the reason why, according to a study commissioned by the State of Nevada, 54% of all kids chronically bullied at school keep quiet about it.

As Dr. McCarthy notes, suicides in such cases are rare but, unfortunately, are becoming less so in contemporary times. The unwarranted sense of shame that bullying often engenders is *that* powerful a force: that kids would actually take their own lives before being willing to ask for help. The reaction of parents in such tragedies is all too often one of being absolutely stunned. *They never saw it coming.* I unreservedly believe them. Thus, I hope my story will serve as an admonition to parents and perhaps prevent another such tragedy. If it serves that purpose in even one case, then it would have been worth writing and promoting.

This is why I offer it freely and even pay to promote it. I have no other agenda and no writing career to promote or launch. I sell nothing nor solicit donations, and I don’t accept advertisements. If any care to read my short story, then you will never again need to ask how such kids feel in their private moments. That, I promise you. The story already has over 20,000 hits.

I wish to thank Dr. McCarthy for joining the anti-bullying cause in such a meaningful way. Her observations are wonderfully educational and are bred from her experiences as a onetime child, a parent and a childcare physician. I have added it as a most welcomed addition to my anti-school bullying resources links at my website along with an introduction to it that I have written which adds further insights along these lines.

R. Donald Schneider

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 13:09:00 +0000

I would absolutely contact your pediatrician for support–and if you haven’t done so already, I would set up a meeting with her teacher, the principal, the school nurse and the school psychologist to make a support and safety plan for her at school. Are the bullies being disciplined? If not, they should be!

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Wed, 21 Apr 2010 12:12:00 +0000

I would be watchful for any changes in mood, especially sadness or anxiety–and I would build a strong relationship with his teacher as well as with the school nurse and principal, so that you can be in communication about any possible issues. It also could be a good idea to take advantage of any volunteer opportunities that would get you into the classroom–that way you can see the dynamic, and kids, for yourself. The website I mentioned in the post, http://www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov, has lots of great information and ideas.

Good luck! The fact that you are being so proactive bodes well for your son!

By: mattcyr

mattcyr — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 15:21:24 +0000

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