Comments on: Why you shouldn't spank your child http://childrenshospitalblog.org/spanking-has-detrimental-effects-on-children/ Boston Children's Hospital's pediatric health blog Sun, 18 Dec 2011 15:38:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: jonny http://childrenshospitalblog.org/spanking-has-detrimental-effects-on-children/comment-page-1/#comment-1884 jonny Wed, 20 Oct 2010 18:18:39 +0000 http://childrenshospitalblog.org/?p=1564#comment-1884 I agree with mr mom. Great comment. God bless you for your kind words about children. I agree with mr mom. Great comment. God bless you for your kind words about children.

]]> By: Mr Mom http://childrenshospitalblog.org/spanking-has-detrimental-effects-on-children/comment-page-1/#comment-366 Mr Mom Sun, 07 Mar 2010 13:14:56 +0000 http://childrenshospitalblog.org/?p=1564#comment-366 "Spanking does not need to be violent." This is oxymoronical, nonsensical double-speak. Spanking is violence of the worst kind because it's from a parent to their child. Spanking of any kind is taking an unacceptable risk that your child may act out later, like in school against another child. Spanking sets a child up to fail, to fear, to act out, and to avoid their feelings by using substances. Spanking shuts down thinking. So don't be surprised if your child starts attacking others as you have attacked them. Don't be surprised when they yell and scream just as you have yelled and screamed. Don't be surprised when they start getting drunk and stoned. Spanking is always an act of violence. So don't be surprised when your spanked child acts out in violence - s/he got their coping skills from you. “Spanking does not need to be violent.” This is oxymoronical, nonsensical double-speak. Spanking is violence of the worst kind because it's from a parent to their child. Spanking of any kind is taking an unacceptable risk that your child may act out later, like in school against another child. Spanking sets a child up to fail, to fear, to act out, and to avoid their feelings by using substances. Spanking shuts down thinking. So don't be surprised if your child starts attacking others as you have attacked them. Don't be surprised when they yell and scream just as you have yelled and screamed. Don't be surprised when they start getting drunk and stoned. Spanking is always an act of violence. So don't be surprised when your spanked child acts out in violence – s/he got their coping skills from you.

]]> By: Mr Mom http://childrenshospitalblog.org/spanking-has-detrimental-effects-on-children/comment-page-1/#comment-949 Mr Mom Sun, 07 Mar 2010 13:14:00 +0000 http://childrenshospitalblog.org/?p=1564#comment-949 "Spanking does not need to be violent." This is oxymoronical, nonsensical double-speak. Spanking is violence of the worst kind because it's from a parent to their child. Spanking of any kind is taking an unacceptable risk that your child may act out later, like in school against another child. Spanking sets a child up to fail, to fear, to act out, and to avoid their feelings by using substances. Spanking shuts down thinking. So don't be surprised if your child starts attacking others as you have attacked them. Don't be surprised when they yell and scream just as you have yelled and screamed. Don't be surprised when they start getting drunk and stoned. Spanking is always an act of violence. So don't be surprised when your spanked child acts out in violence - s/he got their coping skills from you. “Spanking does not need to be violent.” This is oxymoronical, nonsensical double-speak. Spanking is violence of the worst kind because it’s from a parent to their child. Spanking of any kind is taking an unacceptable risk that your child may act out later, like in school against another child. Spanking sets a child up to fail, to fear, to act out, and to avoid their feelings by using substances. Spanking shuts down thinking. So don’t be surprised if your child starts attacking others as you have attacked them. Don’t be surprised when they yell and scream just as you have yelled and screamed. Don’t be surprised when they start getting drunk and stoned. Spanking is always an act of violence. So don’t be surprised when your spanked child acts out in violence – s/he got their coping skills from you.

]]> By: peterernesthaimanphd http://childrenshospitalblog.org/spanking-has-detrimental-effects-on-children/comment-page-1/#comment-365 peterernesthaimanphd Sat, 30 Jan 2010 05:11:33 +0000 http://childrenshospitalblog.org/?p=1564#comment-365 There is no doubt that spanking will stop, temporarily, the parent-offending behavior. Decades of well-conducted research show a variety of deleterious results that can last a lifetime-----including the anger in the then grown parent which makes that parent strike his/her child. Rather than speaking from opinion, we need to look to valid and reliable research to guide our child rearing practices. There is no doubt that spanking will stop, temporarily, the parent-offending behavior. Decades of well-conducted research show a variety of deleterious results that can last a lifetime—–including the anger in the then grown parent which makes that parent strike his/her child. Rather than speaking from opinion, we need to look to valid and reliable research to guide our child rearing practices.

]]> By: Anonymous http://childrenshospitalblog.org/spanking-has-detrimental-effects-on-children/comment-page-1/#comment-950 Anonymous Sat, 30 Jan 2010 05:11:00 +0000 http://childrenshospitalblog.org/?p=1564#comment-950 There is no doubt that spanking will stop, temporarily, the parent-offending behavior. Decades of well-conducted research show a variety of deleterious results that can last a lifetime-----including the anger in the then grown parent which makes that parent strike his/her child. Rather than speaking from opinion, we need to look to valid and reliable research to guide our child rearing practices. There is no doubt that spanking will stop, temporarily, the parent-offending behavior. Decades of well-conducted research show a variety of deleterious results that can last a lifetime—–including the anger in the then grown parent which makes that parent strike his/her child. Rather than speaking from opinion, we need to look to valid and reliable research to guide our child rearing practices.

]]> By: natasha http://childrenshospitalblog.org/spanking-has-detrimental-effects-on-children/comment-page-1/#comment-364 natasha Wed, 13 Jan 2010 16:30:04 +0000 http://childrenshospitalblog.org/?p=1564#comment-364 I thnk spanking is wrong, i would also tie spanking to children get jumpy when someone raises their hands and there speaking problems. I thnk spanking is wrong, i would also tie spanking to children get jumpy when someone raises their hands and there speaking problems.

]]> By: natasha http://childrenshospitalblog.org/spanking-has-detrimental-effects-on-children/comment-page-1/#comment-951 natasha Wed, 13 Jan 2010 16:30:00 +0000 http://childrenshospitalblog.org/?p=1564#comment-951 I thnk spanking is wrong, i would also tie spanking to children get jumpy when someone raises their hands and there speaking problems. I thnk spanking is wrong, i would also tie spanking to children get jumpy when someone raises their hands and there speaking problems.

]]> By: PDeverit http://childrenshospitalblog.org/spanking-has-detrimental-effects-on-children/comment-page-1/#comment-363 PDeverit Thu, 17 Dec 2009 10:43:33 +0000 http://childrenshospitalblog.org/?p=1564#comment-363 Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE: Child buttock-battering for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit. Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit. I think the reason why television shows like "Supernanny" and "Dr. Phil" are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do. There are several reasons why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals: Plain Talk About Spanking by Jordan Riak, The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children by Tom Johnson, NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer Ph.D. Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research with the recommended reads-visit www.nospank.net. Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea: American Academy of Pediatrics, American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, Center For Effective Discipline, PsycHealth Ltd Behavioral Health Professionals, Churches' Network For Non-Violence, Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu, Parenting In Jesus' Footsteps, Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children, United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child. In 26 countries, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child. Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE:

Child buttock-battering for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.

Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.

I think the reason why television shows like “Supernanny” and “Dr. Phil” are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do.

There are several reasons why child bottom-slapping isn’t a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals:

Plain Talk About Spanking
by Jordan Riak,

The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
by Tom Johnson,

NO VITAL ORGANS THERE, So They Say
by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer Ph.D.

Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research with the recommended reads-visit http://www.nospank.net.

Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child bottom-slapping isn’t a good idea:

American Academy of Pediatrics,
American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry,
Center For Effective Discipline,
PsycHealth Ltd Behavioral Health Professionals,
Churches’ Network For Non-Violence,
Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu,
Parenting In Jesus’ Footsteps,
Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children,
United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.

In 26 countries, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child.

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